For some people, trying a sex party in a new city or even a new country can be an exciting and liberating experience. It can be an opportunity to explore new sexual experiences and meet like-minded individuals who share similar interests. Going to a sex party in a new city can also allow people to step outside of their comfort zones and try new things without the fear of being judged by people they know.
Exploring a new city and discovering new places to have fun can add to the excitement of the experience. Meeting new people, trying new things, and experiencing a new city can make the whole experience thrilling and unforgettable.
Obviously we highly recommend to do your research and ensure that the event you are attending is safe and consensual for all parties involved.
Before Jessica and D started Pleasure Island Parties they did tons of research and visited many sex parties all around Europe – swingers clubs, libertine clubs, sexy saunas, private mansion parties and were also asked to perform and provide erotic massage at various sex parties.
Here are their top 5 tips for exploring a sex party in a different city:
Important to note: aside from the general things to prepare before going to a sex party (blog on this soon!) these tips are more specifically catered for those who have perhaps been to a sex party in their own country/city and familiar culture and environment and wanted to explore a sex party abroad in a new country or just a different city to their own.
Do your research:
Read online reviews, online forums and party/club website testimonials to get a sense of the actual vibe the party creates. Ideally your research will be able to gauge what the consent/etiquette culture is like. Body language, spoken language and general communication can be vastly different from what you’re familiar with so it’s important to have a solid understanding of rules/regulations.
Have back up fun options ready:
You never know what can happen so it’s always best to have alternative parties or things to do if the party doesn’t end up being the right fit for you for whatever reason. Try not to put too much expectations on having a perfect experience and do your research for other fun things around the area incase you need to call for plan b. For example some clubs have very strict or vague dress codes and they may not allow you in the club for whatever reason so rather than ruining your entire night just know what other options you have locally.
Travel with your own familiar sex kit:
Particularly going to different countries – a great place to explore a city’s sex world is to check out their sex shops and ask the attendants for their recommendations on clubs and places to explore. Could be a great way also to support the local performers or industry by seeing a live burlesque/cabaret show or similar. Also worth noting the safe sex brands might be very different to what you’re used to – lube, condoms etc so best to be prepared and travel with your own. We’ve picked up some hilarious travel ‘momentos’ by going to weird and wonderful sex shops in other countries!
Connect with people online:
Dating Apps like Feeld, Tinder can help find other party people locally – we definitely recommend you write explicitly what you’re looking for e.g. “Seeking fun/friendly people to go to sex parties with during xx dates” rather than just flinging your net wide and see what matches you get. SDC, JoyClub, FetLife are also sites used in Europe. Check what the most popular online sites are depending on your genre of sex party (e.g festish or swingers) you’d like to attend and research the different social meet ups, groups and forums in the city to help you connect with like minded people. If the local language is not one that you speak you may want to connect with people who speak the same language that might be really keen to be your local sex party guide/translator!
As with everything please navigate the sites and meeting people online and in person with common sense and safety!
Pleasure Island Parties are mostly based in the UK London, we hold the majority of our parties in London – the Covid pandemic halted our sexy soirees across the seas but we have gradually started to make our way back to the cities that we have many fond memories of.
The concept of Pleasure Island parties was that it literally was an island that no matter where we were we could be a welcoming safe playful space for people to connect sensually and explore their sexual desires within the boundaries that Pleasure Island sets.
Pleasure Island held parties in cities all over the world – Tokyo – Japan, Paris – France, Barcelona – Spain, Cluj – Romania, Zurich – Switzerland and regularly visits UK cities; London, Brighton, Bristol and Manchester. We’ve also held many private Pleasure Island Parties (people with their own private guest lists) all over the world for a more curated experience with familiar play friends.
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