faq

We Require That All Attendees Read the FAQ Before Purchasing Tickets to Ensure a Safe Environment

Consent

We always make sure that our Islanders understand and practise consent wholeheartedly, respecting their own and others’ boundaries. When you register, we make sure that you understand and agree to our rules and regulations to make it a safe place for you, all of our guests, and also us as hosts holding the space. We always guide you through consent practices and etiquette at the beginning of your time on Pleasure Island so that everyone can have a wonderful time.

Here are some basic consent tips:

No is a complete sentence and does not need to be justified or explained.
Yes means yes in that moment, not always.
Maybe means there is a possibility for playful negotiation or offerings of alternatives.

Health and Safety

Safe sex is the only kind of sex that happens on Pleasure Island. We provide a selection of condoms, lube, and gloves for your use, but you are always welcome to bring your own if you would prefer.

As we are a safe sex environment, we expect all of our guests to have regular sexual health screenings and take responsibility for their interactions, which may include not being able to attend a party if they have an contagious health concern, sexual or otherwise.

Sexual Heath and Hygiene Guidelines

We take sexual health and safe sex practices very seriously so here's a few points to note. Due to Pleasure Islands intimate nature with lots of body to body contact happening - which is always completely optional - we kindly request that you respect and take the following precautions:

No open cuts or wounds are permitted in the space.
Please make sure you arrive freshly showered.
Please ensure you have informed the hosts if you are pregnant or have any specific medical conditions they need to be aware of.
If you have any contagious and/or active infections such as fever, flu, an active outbreak of herpes, or any other STIs, you'll unfortunately not be able to attend for the safety of the group. We trust that you will respect this request and understand that tickets are non-refundable/non-transferable.
- There may be circumstances where you have an infection under control and agree not to engage in any sexual activity but it's safe to be involved in non-transferable or low-risk activities such as giving massage with your hands.
We recommend you have regular sexual health check-ups and are actively aware of the types of safe sex practices that keep you and your partners healthy.

RESOURCES:

56 Dean Street (London Sexual Health Clinic)

Sexual Activities and Risks (NHS)

Pleasure Island is a supportive and safe space where there is absolutely no judgement if you cannot make it for any of the above reasons.

Due to time restrictions and to maintain absolute discretion please get in touch prior to the event if you would like to discuss these points further as there won't be time available during the event.

Further Answers to Your Questions

Who can attend Pleasure Island Parties?

Our Pleasure Seekers come from all walks of life but have one thing in common: the desire to explore sensuality amongst other open-minded peers. While we do not strictly cater to heterosexual couples, we do find that those are who primarily come to Pleasure Island events; that being said, we warmly welcome anyone with an open mind and willing to explore whether you are heterosexual, heteroflexible, bisexual, bi-curious, or otherwise queer. In terms of age ranges, we find that most guests tend to fall between their 20s-40s, but we are open to guests of all legal ages. We ask that everyone come in pairs in order to maintain the balance of the overall event. Should you be in an arrangement of more than 2 people, we are happy to accommodate; please be sure that each individual member registers.
Can I see the guest list?

Definitely not. We don't share names, pictures, contact details or anything about our guests. Ever. Absolute discretion and confidentiality at all times.
Can you hook me up with a partner?

No, sorry. We're not a dating site and don't actively connect people. There are loads of sites and socials where you can meet like-minded people.
I am single. Can I come alone?

We understand that not everyone has someone to attend a Pleasure Island Party with them. However, as our events are very small and intimate, we only sell tickets in pairs in an effort to maintain a balanced and sensual vibe. If you are single please do apply, very occasionally there are one off exceptions for pre-approved single tickets.
I've never been to a play party before. What can I expect?

Our only ask is that you join us with an open mind and are respectful of everyone around you. You can choose to engage as much or as little as you feel comfortable with. Everything at Pleasure Island is an invitation and we are on-hand to support you however you need. That being said, our parties are most suited to people who have an interest in exploring sensuality with others. Spectators or voyeurs in such an intimate space can be unnerving for some, so our intention is to keep the space as comfortable as possible.
I have been to play parties before. How is Pleasure Island different?

Pleasure Island is a space for intimate exploration that begins with guided massage activities and evolves over the course of the evening into a sensual play party amongst established couples and new friends alike. By design, Pleasure Island is smaller and more intimate than other play parties. Generally speaking, each man must be accompanied by a woman to attend one of our events and keep the balance of the guest list. For people in other relationships that are not M/F, we ask that you follow our same registration process and come in a pair in order to maintain the balance. While Pleasure Island is not explicitly kinky (we do not participate in extreme fetish or BDSM), the focus is on authentically exploring sensations in small group settings. With no more than 30 people at each event, we welcome couples, play partners, and intimate friends of all levels of experience to come explore their erotic joy in a beautiful, safely-held environment. Your well-being matters to us and, in an effort to support you to have a great time, we offer guided massage at the start of the event to awaken your senses and encourage you to follow your own pleasure. We hold this space carefully but encourage full-spirited freedom within the space we have created.
I have particular issues I want to explore within my own sexuality and relationship with my partner(s). Is this the right place to do that?

Guests have been known to go through quite a personal journey after attending our events and open up their world to all sorts of things. However, please note this isn't a workshop or healing space where people are facilitated to go deep into whatever process they may want to. Please be clear on your own boundaries and establish your party agreements with your partner(s) before you attend a party. A party isn't the time or place to work through issues safely - nor is it much fun for other guests and hosts to have to deal with emotional fall outs. If you're not sure if you or your relationship is ready for a party and would like to explore and talk about things or your own issues then Jessica offers a 15min free Skype call for those interested in working through anything that comes up before, during or after the parties. To arrange a session or intro call please see her website.
What are the Terms and Conditions?

Tickets are non-transferrable and nonrefundable without exception. If we are required to reschedule our event for any reason, your tickets will be transferred to the next available date. We fully understand and appreciate that there will always be extreme individual circumstances, but we are unable to make any individual exceptions and still function as a business. We encourage you to be as informed as possible about what you're comfortable with in terms of attending an intimate event such as ours before you purchase a ticket.
What happens after I register?

We will arrange a quick video/voice call as per your availability that you indicate, we always prefer to have a quick friendly chat with each new guest so we can ensure that Pleasure Island is what they're looking for and to help us as hosts to create a nice, safe and welcoming atmosphere at our parties. Once 'approved' you'll be given a ticket web address and access code to secure your tickets to the event date or dates that you're interested in.
How much do tickets cost?

£170 per couple, £255 per throuple. Each ticket also has a small processing fee.
How often are there Pleasure Island Parties?

Pleasure Island Parties happen approximately every two months, and our events sell out quickly. If you know that you would like to experience one of our events, you should apply and purchase tickets as soon as possible.
BYOB?

Pleasure Island Parties do not have a major drinking party vibe. You're welcome to bring your own alcohol as there will not be any for purchase at the party. No drugs. Please note that if your consumption becomes an issue for guests or the hosts you will be asked to leave immediately.
What should I bring / wear?

BRING: A fun, friendly, respectful, and sensual vibe. You are welcome to bring your own alcohol or other beverages. Light snacks and non-alcoholic drinks will be provided, but alcoholic beverages are not available for purchase at the venue. Any toys, accessories, or safe sex supplies that you favour. Please note that all safe sex materials will be provided at the party, but, should you have brand/size preferences, feel free to bring your own. WEAR: Pleasure Island Parties are about sensual experience, not a costume contest. As such, please arrive however makes you feel your sexy best. Please arrive in smart, easy to remove clothing. Once you are in Pleasure Island, you will be invited to remove your shoes and strip down to your more sensual attire to get comfortable and sink into the experience.
Do the hosts also play at the party?

Jessica and D will always hold the space for the parties and don't actively get involved during the parties to create a safe and attentive atmosphere. If you'd like a private session with them, please visit the Private Parties page on this website.
Can you explain what 'guided' entails?

We welcome everyone on arrival and talk through the rules, consent, and safe sex practices before we begin to set the mood. We begin with just closing our eyes and breathing— nothing too deep and meditative, but it really helps all of the nerves and anticipation settle. Then we guide a couple of touch and massage activities that are completely optional but really help set up the sensual vibe and flow for the rest of the evening, rather than waiting for others to make a move, drinking too much for "courage," or waiting until the final hour of the party before anything “happens.” Our intention is to make it super easy for you to connect with your own body and allow yourself to listen to what you might want to explore. This guidance aims to take all the “head” talk and awkward small talk out for you and gives you something to connect with your fellow Islanders throughout the night. "Hey, that was a great shoulder massage earlier, would you like to explore more?" rather than "do you come here often?".
What are the standards for condom usage?

Safe sex at all times. Condom usage is mandatory; dental dams and gloves for other types of interactions are strongly and actively encouraged and provided for.
How do you manage enthusiastic and continued consent?

We make sure all guests take ownership of their own self care at all times and listen to what is right for them. As hosts, we also empower you to be able to have the language, both non-verbal and verbal, to be able to communicate your boundaries. This can be interesting to navigate for some people in a party environment and in life in general. Our hosts are always on hand to talk to and give guidance to maintain the safest environment possible. If there is any issue during the party, it is imperative that you let the hosts know as soon as possible otherwise they cannot do anything about the situation.
Do you have a dance floor? How is the venue and space set up?

There is a carefully curated erotic playlist throughout the evening but our focus is on play and connection, so the music is a backdrop to guide the rhythm of our massage activities and enhance sensuality rather than a focal point to dance. Depending on the venue we choose there's always a space to remove your shoes, change your clothes and keep your bags. The main play space is softly lit, the floor covered with soft mattresses and blankets for you to feel comfortable, and a drinks and snacks space to chat and chill.
How do you create an inclusive environment for people of all sexuality and relationships given the preference of males attending with a female?

We aim to make our parties as accessible as possible for anyone who would like to attend whether they are just beginning exploring their sensual side or if they have been actively involved in the community for a while. Our intention is to normalise pleasure and empower people to seek it out. Since we do not belong to any one particular “scene,” we get Pleasure Seekers from all walks of life. We are not a “straight couple swap” or exclusively gay/queer party; the majority of attendees are usually heterosexual, heteroflexible, bisexual or bicurious, or just open to explore.
...have my period?

Bring whatever sanitary items you need to make yourself feel comfortable. Some women use sponges during sex (we recommend Beppy Sponges). As with any situation, you just need to communicate with yourself and those you want to interact with about each other’s boundaries and comfort levels. If you would prefer not coming to the party due to your period, please note that we cannot refund or exchange tickets for this reason.
...don't like anyone?

Sometimes it happens, as attraction and chemistry cannot be forced. Just because you are attending a sex party does not necessarily mean that “sex” has to happen. Keeping an open mind without specific expectations is a must.
...don't want to have sex?

There is absolutely no pressure or expectation for you to do so! There are plenty of sensual, juicy vibes to soak up and enjoy without having to have sex
...am too nervous or shy?

That is completely normal and understandable. It’s also kind of exciting that, as adults, we can still get a bit overexcited. You definitely won't be the only one who is a little nervous. We do our utmost to make sure you're as comfortable as possible. We suggest taking things super slow before and as you arrive at the party so you arrive relaxed without a rush.
...am embarrassed about my body?

We have all types of bodies and people that attend Pleasure Island Parties, so it is important to remember that attractiveness is completely subject to a beautiful and vast array of flavours, shapes, and sizes. Our main criteria is that you're healthy, hygienic and have a sexy/attractive attitude towards following our rules and practising consent and generally just like being nice to people.
...want someone's number at the party?

Please ask them politely and respect their answer. As we are not a dating site and do not share names, pictures, contact details, or anything else about our guests, we will be unable to provide you with this information after the fact.
...am pregnant? Is it safe for me to attend?

Hell yes! Jessica was pregnant and hosted Pleasure Island throughout her entire pregnancy, so she actively encourages and celebrates any pregnant person wanting to attend. You will be safe, comfortable, and probably even have extra special offers of foot massages if you like. Some women feel they need to hide away during this time or fear they'll be fetishised (or may indeed want to be). Wherever you're at, please just let the hosts know and we'll be happy to make you feel comfortable.
...bought tickets but no longer can bring someone?

Get in touch and let us know as soon as possible. Please be aware though, we are not a dating service so we accept no liability for your loss if you’ve bought tickets but cannot attend for this reason.
...leave clothing or something else behind at the party?

If we find it, we will hold it for 48 hours before giving it to charity (if it’s charity shop friendly). We hold no responsibility for items left behind.